The limiting nature of anxiety

Do you ever feel like everyone else is moving on with their lives whilst you just sit there watching everyone progress?

My anxiety prevents me from going out to work and so I try to do some freelance writing from home but unfortunately it’s a difficult market to crack. I often sit here thinking how little my life has changed since I was 16. I’ve lost some friends and gained a boyfriend but other than that it’s pretty much the same.

At 24 I imagined myself going off to work every morning and returning of an evening to my own place. Instead I still live with family and don’t even go out to work.

My anxiety makes it difficult for me to go out on my own at the moment. The last time I attempted a solo trip I decided to get a train up to London, walk around for an hour and then meet my boyfriend and travel home with him. This ended in a huge panic attack and we thought we would have to spend the night in London and hope I felt up to getting a train home the following morning.

Since then I haven’t attempted another solo trip. This means that my days are spent waiting until someone has some time to spare to go out with me. This rarely happens during the week and so I’m stuck indoors with my own thoughts, retreating deeper into the shadows of my anxiety.

Unless I fancy going for a walk there’s nothing near me to do and so I feel really trapped during the week. The weekends are fine as my boyfriend understands how I feel and he’s happy to support me and help me go out and tackle my anxiety. Unfortunately the progress I make during the weekend is then undone as I spend all week holed up inside hoping that someone might be able to spare a morning for me.

There’s not really a point to this post, I just feel a bit lonely. I’m wondering if there’s anyone else out there that feels the same way?








37 thoughts on “The limiting nature of anxiety

  1. I think I know what you’re talking about. Similar ways to describe anxiety’s limiting nature is: Debilitating and Isolating. I know how those feel. Terrible and awful. Practically, they make you limited, prevented from carrying on life as normal. But don’t dwell on it. Talking to people, opening up, helps get out of the isolation. Reaching out lets someone else reach back to pull you up out of anxiety’s swallow. Focusing on the normal “everyday things” helps you slowly loosen anxiety’s grip and begin to feel “normal” again. Then you’ll be less limited. Not isolated. More active. Hope this helps. You are not alone.

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    1. Thank you for your comment ☺️ It’s nice to know that others feel the same/similar! Anxiety’s a complicated mental health problem and it will always have many different elements to it but the more we talk about them hopefully the less daunting they seem 🤞🏼

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  2. I know exactly how you feel. It’s taken me a very long time to get to a point where I manage my anxiety more than it managed me. That being said, I lacked the tools, knowledge and a sense of where to get help when I first began to understand my anxiety. You are further ahead than I was in coming to understand the nature of how anxiety affects us. You are not alone, making small efforts each day to step outside of the comfort zone your anxiety wants you to believe that you must reside in, those small efforts will add up. Every time you write a post where you can lay our your feelings and be able to observe them from a more objective point of view, those actions are precious. So many of us feel as you do, so few of us have the voice to do so. Be proud that you are raising awareness and shining a light on the challenges that come with living with anxiety.

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    1. Thank you for your comment and kind words ☺️ It’s reassuring to know that I’m not alone in how I feel and that people like yourself have successfully managed their anxiety ❤️

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  3. This is a lovely post and it does touch on so many important things about anxiety. I personally don’t suffer from this but know someone who does and it’s so nice to see it being recognized and see how others are able to cope with or overcome this issue. I will be sharing this with my friend and hope that hearing about your struggle and hope this will show them they aren’t alone in how they feel and they can overcome this.

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    1. Thank you and thank you for sharing the post with your friend ☺️ I hope they find it helpful ❤️ Anxiety can be a very difficult and lonely problem but it sounds like they have a wonderful friend in you to help them through it xx


    1. Thank you! ☺️ I haven’t. I’ve tried yoga many years ago and loved it so I suspect I would feel the same about meditating, I will have a look into it ❤️


  4. This is so familiar to me. Life often doesn’t go the way I picture it, because my own anxiety gets in the way and says “no, you don’t actually want to do that” or “yeah right, you actually can’t do that” and often I feel so incapable of overcoming my own mind. Living with anxiety can feel like living on an island: you can see everyone around you, but you can’t reach them. Writing about it is very, very brave – and don’t ever forget that! Thank you for sharing your story. It helps to know that we are not alone.

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    1. Thank you ☺️ I think it’s very important that we never feel like we’re alone in the way we feel. I’ve been blown away by how many people have commented on this post saying that feel the same. It’s a horrible feeling and our anxiety can be incredibly difficult to manage 😔 I wish you all the best on your journey ❤️

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  5. Oh, you’re not alone. I’ve had that same problem a lot. Work stresses me out and I end up a wreck by the time I get home. I’ve taken hot showers just to take the bad feelings off. Sometimes it works and I’m a whole new person once I’ve stepped out of the shower.

    I want to venture out more on my own but I’m also so scared of doing so.

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    1. It’s a horrible feeling to have 😔 I ventured out by myself for the first time since Christmas. I only popped to the local supermarket for a few minutes but it felt amazing. We can do things on our own again, we just have to take baby steps ☺️

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  6. I can feel like this sometimes too, but I often remind myself of this quote: ‘just because you took longer than others doesn’t mean you failed’. Very brave of you to share- thank you X

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  7. Know exactly how you are feeling, I’m still at home and right now I find the idea of living alone terrifying. I do work but I end up having a lot of time off sick and if anything I find that more stressful. How do you find working at home?


    1. It’s so difficult isn’t it 😔 I mostly love working from home. It barely covers the bills though but thankfully I’m in a position at the moment that it’s not too bad. It can be quite isolating so I have to make a conscious effort to leave the house sometimes and getting a balance between work life and home life can be difficult – I wouldn’t change it though

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  8. Hello Liz:
    Thank you for posting your experience with anxiety. It will help others feel less alone. I recently wrote about my experience with anxiety and panic attacks, and how I was eventually able to leave them behind. I hope you have a chance to read it.

    For years I lived in fear of anxiety; my main managing technique was to find ways to distract my mind from facing it. Watching tv, spending time with friends, etc. They were all ways for me to run away from my fear of having another panic attack. Then a therapist mentioned that anxiety was a future based emotion. I dad never thought about it that way. As long as my thoughts remained in the present, anxiety couldn’t touch me. Easier said than done. However, meditation helped me develop the skill of remaining in the present, instead of drifting to the future where anxiety retains most of its power.

    Thanks again!

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    1. Thank you for your comment, I will have a read about how you recovered from your anxiety and panic attacks ☺️ I’ve had a few people recommend meditation to me, it’s definitely something I am going to look in to!

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      1. No problem Liz. It helped me along with other therapy as well. I will say that there are many types of different meditation, and depending on my current state, some types will speak to me more than others. Good luck!
        Mind and Love


  9. At the moment I am recovering from depression and anxiety. I’ve had hypnotherapy and CBT and I’ve improved a lot although I am still on medication. I had 3 months off work because of it. Everyone I have spoken to about it have all had some sort of mental health episode at some point in their lives so that made me feel better about mine. I originally thought that depression and anxiety was something that I would just have to learn to live with and battle on through it, but it’s not, you can get better. Thanks for sharing this with us. Take care xx


  10. Anxiety sucks. I can’t relate to you 100% since mine is a bit different but I am totally with you.
    It limits your daily interactions and experiences. With me, I have started to feel it in my early 20’s. I think it was the pressure of succeeding in life and trying to make my parents proud. I too, thought I would be up and running by now but again, not knowing this before, it’s the anxiety that is limiting us. Writing about it and connecting with people all over is a great idea! I started my own blog because I wanted to share some stories & ideas on how to keep moving forward and inspiring women in many areas in life. Not necessary focused on anxiety, but it certainly ties in. Thanks Liz for sharing your perspective on this =)

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    1. It really does suck 😔 It’s so limiting in all different shapes and forms! I’m glad you’ve found some common ground in my perspective. I hope you keep moving forward ❤️


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